How to tell a friend about his table manners?
I live in Vancouver. My good friend from Hong Kong has little table manners, embarrassing to me when we eat at the restaurant, where particually popular place among people of the West. He lived here for over 10 years, and has an excellent education, but he did not learn and / or not intereted in the table manners of the West at all. I know there are ways to table cultivation differet different, so I learned that in China, table manners are rather informal. When he eats he puts way too much food in her mouth, as he made his chewing, and posture is really bad ... and sometimes a few Western people look at us with sorry eyes. Since then, I always try to take him to authentic Asian restaurants, where people do not go white. Is it possible to tell him my concerns without offending him? or is it a question of why I care? Should I not let it bother me at all that respect for him (especially in a multicultural city so named)? If Please give me advice, thank you.
Well, not that he did not "good table manners," he simply does not have table manners of the West. I guess there is some Chinese forum, with its announcement: "I have a good friend Canada with little table manners, it bothers me when we go to Asian restaurants. It takes little bite-sized, silent, and sat as if he had any something stuck up his rear. Sometimes, some people from the East are watching with sorry eyes ... "So, try not not see his behavior through your goal of "good" and "bad". It's just different. Why not have an honest discussion with him about the differences cultural. Ask him to learn about Chinese culture of eating, so you can get all authentic and what-not. Ask him if he wants to take his knowledge Western dining culture beyond food with a fork. He might be interested, he could not. He could have never even thought of. Some things are so natural, ingrained since childhood - like eating - it did not even rise to the person he could be criticized. On the other hand, some people simply do what they will do, and do not give a hoot that others think.
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